32. How do I visit one or more multiple in the hospital once the one or more of the other babies go home?
babies in the hospital and at home is probably one of the most difficult
experiences a new parent of multiples may face. Many parents expressed
feelings of guilt during this time because they frequently felt that when
they were at the hospital they should really be at home helping, and when
they were home they felt guilty about the little one(s) still in the hospital.
Many mothers feel as if they should be at the hospital every day, but
that isn’t always possible. Appropriate childcare for your preemies
at home may not be available on a daily basis. Mothers must also appreciate
that they have just had major abdominal surgery which requires time to
recuperate and have newborns at home. Visiting the baby(ies) in the hospital
as often as possible is ideal, but be kind to yourself; you can only be
in one place at one time and remember, this situation is very temporary.
The MOST Breastfeeding Multiples booklet also has information on this topic for mothers who are breastfeeding.
Both booklets are also sold as a combo Infant Multiples/Breastfeeding packet.
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